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Why Are We So Busy Being Busy?

The other weekend I cleaned the house, washed my hair, straightened it for the first time in a decade and then put my pjs back on. I just couldn’t find the extra energy needed to get dressed and step outside the front door.

I sat on the bed and realised that all the plans we’d made this weekend were not essential. The article research, picture hanging and networking event I’d signed myself up for in order to feel productive were not critical. I decided to try and chill for a bit and that’s when exhaustion hit me like a brick wall.

It always happens like that doesn’t it? As soon as you stop for a breather you wonder how you’ve even been running?

I’ve read a lot about the phenomenon of ‘busyness‘. How my generation, in particular, use busy as a mark of success. We even measure our sense of busy against each other like some sort of dick-slinging contest. Oh you think you’re busy with 2 kids and a start up but I’ve taken 100 flights and moved house?

I am not doubting for a minute that we don’t have busy lives – the women I know in particular take on (and kick goals) A LOT. But I am beginning to question for myself whether all the elements of my busy are essential and, if not, why I feel it’s so important to achieve them?

A bit like my diet, I know for certain that my schedule could do with some moderation. Maybe if I acted a bit more balanced everyday I wouldn’t need a weekend like this one where everything has to stop.

But my goodness it felt good to do nothing. When you’ve worked through the guilt and embraced the self-indulgence, a weekend with just the couch and Netflix is the ultimate bliss. You should totally try it!

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I'm a full time blogger with a passion for travel and interiors. A travel blogger for 12+ years, I took a course on interior styling during the pandemic when travel was not an option. I now run 2 Instagram accounts - @jayneytravels, which covers authentic, affordable luxury escapes and @ourtravelhome which is all about decorating our new build home with a modern rustic style.


  • Jenny
    August 21, 2017 at 1:46 am

    It’s ALL about having weekends of doing nothing! I don’t know about you but I also find I’m at my most creative when my brain isn’t super duper busy.

    • Jayne Gorman
      August 21, 2017 at 2:05 am

      Definitely! I used to try and get a head start on work over the weekend but I’m actually finding my Mondays far more productive if I have a chilled Sunday. It sounds obvious but sometimes you’re so busy trying to keep going that common sense goes out the window!

  • Shandos
    August 21, 2017 at 7:02 am

    It’s such a bad, but easy, habit to slip into!

    My current travels in Europe were meant to be “slow”. And while it started that way, once my husband decided we should aim to visit every UNESCO site in the world, we’ve sped up pace, jumping around to different sites. (I’m a bit addictive when it comes to ticking off lists!)

    Even this last week, when we spent it in the same place in Strasbourg, to “work and relax”. Just I barely got around to the relax part…

  • Jayne Gorman
    August 23, 2017 at 1:51 am

    i know that feeling too. I’m not sure I know how to have an old-school holiday anymore as there’s always a part of me who wants to explore more, write more, more more etc!


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